All too often we get lost in the hustle bustle of life and before we know it, we take a step back and realize we’ve run ourselves into the ground.
It’s usually after we discover we’re not being as productive at work, or our significant other points out how distracted we’ve been, or we notice that lately we just haven’t felt our best.
I wanted to be sure to pull the men into this, because let’s be honest, how many of them naturally read tips on self care? It’s important fellas, keep reading.
Spend some time alone.
If you know me you know I enjoy my "ME TIME."
In today’s world we are constantly connected with others, I don't see how people can be attached to others 24/7. It can really put people in a fog. So first and foremost – you must occasionally unplug. Put your phone on do not disturb (after telling the people who matter what you’re doing so not to induce panic) and try to spend an entire day with yourself. Get away from the noise and dirty air. Before you know it you’ll love stepping away and just being alone sometimes. Sometimes I think , well maybe I love it so much because I'm the only child lol, but it does help.
During that alone time, get lost in your thoughts. Try to pin point what really makes you lose motivation. Do you often feel distracted at work? Do your relationships with some people seem to exhaust you more than give you life? Is your health standing in the way of you doing certain things? You have to find the cause before you can find the solution.
Go to sleep
Stop pretending that you can function at your maximum capacity on 5 hours of sleep every night. I go to sleep at 10PM ! I don't care who calls me a grandma, if anything I laugh along with them. The CDC states that 35% of American adults don’t get enough sleep (less than 7 hours in a 24 hr period) and this is linked to a rainbow of chronic health problems. Do I really need to say more?
Find a hobby.
At the end of the day when all of your responsibilities have been taken care of, what do you do to unwind? What do you do that you do solely for yourself? It’s important to have an answer to these questions. You might have to try a few things before you find your niche – in fact, you should always be willing to inquire new things. You could be missing out on something you’re really good at or like a lot.
Ask for help.
If you’ve read through this and kept thinking “I just don’t have time for that” I really encourage you to seek help. I stay in touch with my professors at Alabama State because their great mentors and there always there to help if needed.
Even if that just means telling your boss there’s no way you can pick up that extra shift again, or telling your partner that you really cannot go to another family event this weekend, or asking a friend if your hanging out today could consist of helping you fold laundry while sipping some wine. You cannot be the best version of yourself – the best mother/father, wife/husband, employee, friend, etc if you don’t take care of yourself. You cannot pour from an empty glass.
Never feel selfish for putting your own needs on the table :)
I hope this was insightful. Lately I've taking on a lot of responsibility with work, school and an online business so my scheduling has to be on point, and within that scheduling I have to pencil in "ME TIME" so I thought it would be the perfect time to make some reminders.
Thanks for reading!
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